I'm Tom, and at Headland my job is to help you to activate the clarity and courage you need to change the choices you make in order to realise your wellbeing, performance or growth goals.
I’m Tom and I'm probably a bit older than I act and, like everyone else, over the years my life has had its ups and downs. The good news is that I'm here to help you navigate your way through yours!
At "Headland" I combine psychotherapy, creative therapy, hypnotherapy and counselling techniques to help you heal, overcome fear, build self belief and create positive change in your life at home, at work, at play, at school... and anywhere else in between.
These techniques have been used for thousands of years and today they are increasingly used to create behavioural change and promote mental wellbeing in business, coaching, counselling, education, health & fitness, personal growth, professional development, relationships, sport and more.
While I work with lots of different people across lots of different issues, I specialise in working with men to help them understand and address what I call Manxiety — the underlying patterns of anxiety that shape the way many men think, feel and behave these days. I work with school kids, teens, young adults, business owners, athletes, dads... basically if you're a bloke aged anywhere between 8 and 80!
If we both feel like we can work together — and it's important that you read and understand the Principles of Practice outlined below — we typically work in a block of three sessions with some 'homework' over a period of two or three weeks.
We work collaboratively and we work fast — many people say they experience a significant shift in the first session. We will talk, draw and write about what's going on. There may be tears, there is usually laughter and lots of other emotions in between as we work through three key stages:
Getting clarity and understanding what's happening, how it's triggered and the impact on your life.
Targeting, disrupting and bypassing your conditioned thinking and behaviour.
Embedding the courage, resources and power for you to make choices that create long-lasting change.
There are a number of location options:
We try to keep pricing simple:
I do not magically 'fix' you or give you all the 'answers'. That's going to all come from you! During this highly collaborative process you need to be completely honest and you need to be completely committed to wanting to create change — which includes completing tasks between sessions. You will need to do some homework to create lasting change in your life!.
If you find yourself resisting the need to change... well that's the first thing we can work on so that you are wholly bought into the process!
We can usually get you to where you want to be in 3 sessions over 2 - 3 weeks. Most people say they experience a noticeable positive change within the first session. Sometimes we can resolve very specific issues in one session. Sometimes we uncover other stuff, so we need more time to work through those too.
Everyone is different, has different needs and thinks differently from one day to the next. This is not a templated formula, but a dynamic and adaptable approach that works for how you’re feeling right now, with plenty of wriggle room for anything unexpected!
This is not the kind of therapy where you have to keep coming back week-after-week to try to make sense of things that have already happened in your life or to find some 'deeper meaning' in your past. We work on changing your future how you maintain problems, make decisions and utilise your skills, resources and experiences.
“You can’t go back and change the beginning, but you can start where you are and change the ending.” C.S. Lewis
It goes without saying that everything discussed is strictly confidential (unless you pose any kind of danger to yourself or others, in which case the law requires appropriate authorities or agencies to be informed).
There are often tears, there may be frustration, there may be confusion, there may be regret, there may be anger. But there is always a place for humour in healing, so there's usually plenty of good stuff too, like laughter — which is one of the most powerful forms of therapy going —because when we laugh it's hard not to see the world, and our place in it, differently.
And of course there is always hope and positivity, but firmly anchored in reality.
Sometimes we will use hypnosis to disrupt your current thinking patterns and to fast track and embed new patterns of thinking. This is 'Clinical Hypnosis' or 'Hypnotherapy', not the 'stage hypnosis' you may have seen in movies or for entertainment — when people cluck like a chicken or dance like Elvis!
During hypnotherapy you are in a relaxed but highly focused meditative state and you are always conscious and in control and you can stop the process should you wish to. In this heightened state of awareness you can experience things differently and be more open to suggestions and alternative views as you can access and bypass your subconscious.
If you're not changing something, then by default you are choosing it. This can be quite confronting for some people... but that quickly becomes liberating and empowering! Together we will quickly establish the impact of continuing to choose a particular behaviour or way of living and the benefits of doing something about it by choosing to change.